I’m the type of gal who doesn’t like to be told what to do. I have fully bought into the line “you’re not the boss of me!” And while sometimes that confident independence is what fuels my ambition and success, other times it causes riffs in my relationships….especially my marriage. I have had to learn how to be okay with not always being charge, having it my way and letting my husband take the lead. In fact, I can point to one ultimate scenario where it was necessary to give in and be led.Read More
There’s a phenomenon that goes on in my house. Be it a weekday, weekend, morning or night the same results occur. This strange occurrence causes a shift in the very soul of those who reside in my home. It can be a force for good or leave everyone shaking in its wake. What is this phenomenon?
It seems that the old adage: “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy,” has a ring of truth to it.Read More
Christmas is behind us. Another holiday season in the books. The season for giving. It’s also the season for racking up credit cards and maxing out spending limits. So although the calendar has changed, you may still be feeling the financial effects of the holiday for months to come. Americans spend $465 billion during the holiday season according to the National Retail Federation. Last year, shoppers in the U.S. racked up an average of $1,054 of debt during the Christmas season — an increase of 5% over 2017, according to a survey from MagnifyMoney, a personal finance website. It found 44% of shoppers racked up more than $1,000 in holiday debt, and 5% accumulated more than $5,000 in debt.Read More
Pat Benatar may have been right when she sang, “Love is a battlefield,” especially when it comes to marriage. It’s tough stuff. No matter how many years you have under your belt, it’s a tough institution made even more treacherous when there’s bitterness, hurt feelings and separation. Whether you’re a newlywed or a seasoned married couple, how can you ensure a happy relationship? While marriage comes with no guarantees, here are a few ways Mat and I have worked to safeguard our relationship for faithfulness and devotion and happiness:Read More
I have a superpower… well, maybe it’s more like a coping mechanism. When someone’s got me upset or if they’ve hurt me, I can channel those emotions into a whirlwind of focused activity that blows through to-do lists in a mad dash. I can scrub the house down, pound out a new blog post and even declutter the garage if I am angry or hurt enough.Read More
It’s something we strive for as couples — to be friends with our spouses. We know that when relationships begin, it’s best to start as friends. So why is it hard to continue cultivating a friendship after the courtship?
Your spouse is your partner and your better (or other) half. But what about being a friend? A confidant? Truly the guy or gal you want to pal around with???Read More
As much as we all would love for family dinners and holidays to be re-creations of Norman Rockwell paintings, some family dynamics are more volatile than others. There are relationships that are easier to foster than others -- yes, even under your own roof. Just think about those lovely sibling rivalries! Sister Sledge had the 70s hit "We Are Family," sometimes you gotta wonder how that song would go if the Sledge sisters had your family, right?Read More
If you get around my husband for any length of time, you'll know he is a big fan of numbers, budgeting and getting out of debt. He's one of those weirdos who likes to figure our investments and retirements as a pass time. He literally finds joy in playing out our financial future through the time we retire. And while I am so thankful for his heart in this.... I am the polar opposite.Read More
Mat and I will celebrate five years together next month, and I can honestly say that in those five years, we haven't had many arguments. For the most part, Mat and I get along just fine. We laugh, we have fun, we give each other space and grace to be ourselves and we genuinely love living life together.
The one area that defined more differences than possibly any other relationship category was the money topic. We didn't fight about money.... simply because we tend to be on total ends of the spectrum.Read More